When “Boundaries” Are Used to Silence You: The Psychological Impact of Being Forbidden to Speak Your Truth
There’s a difference between a boundary and a muzzle. When you’ve survived abuse — especially the kind that twists your reality and erodes your sense of self — speaking your truth becomes a vital step in healing. But what happens when someone, often someone close to you, tells you that speaking your truth is a […]
When Love Costs Too Much: How Narcissists Use Coercive Control and Financial Abuse to Trap Their Partners
When we talk about domestic abuse, most people picture physical violence. But some of the most devastating forms of abuse never leave a bruise. They hide behind bank statements, control disguised as “concern,” and a slow erosion of independence masked as “protection.” If you’ve ever felt like your partner was managing your money more than […]
I Didn’t Consent to the Abuse: A Survivor’s Journey Through Reactive Abuse, Mislabeling, and the Truth About Healing.
For those of us who have survived a lifetime of narcissistic abuse, the journey to healing isn’t a straight line. It’s a spiral – through pain, through truth, through guilt, through the heavy fog of confusion and shame, and sometimes… through the heartbreaking judgments of those we love most. I am a survivor of long-term […]
“Back to Square One”: The Narcissist’s Favorite Manipulation Line When You Stop Playing Their Game
If you’ve ever stood your ground in a relationship with a narcissist, you’ve likely heard this phrase:“I’m back to square one with you.” It might sound harmless. Maybe even logical. But make no mistake – this is not an innocent comment. It’s a manipulation tactic. A frustrated narcissist’s way of saying: You stopped complying. You […]
The One Thing Narcissists Can’t Fake – And Why That Makes Them So Dangerous
Let’s just get to the point:The number one thing a narcissist cannot fake no matter how convincing they seem is genuine empathy. Sure, they can act empathetic. They can cry on cue. Say all the right things. Hold your hand at the exact moment you need comfort. But here’s the cold truth: it’s all a […]
Narcissistic Abuse Is Total Annihilation, And You’re Not Crazy for Feeling That Way
When people hear the term narcissistic abuse, they often imagine selfish behavior, emotional manipulation, or gaslighting. But for those who’ve lived it, narcissistic abuse is far more than toxic dynamics. It is total annihilation of the self. It’s the slow, calculated erasure of your truth, your voice, your sense of safety, and your very identity. […]
When the Victim Looks Like the Narcissist: The Ultimate Gaslighting Trap
One of the most insidious things about narcissistic abuse is how it flips the script not just in the eyes of the narcissist, but in the eyes of everyone else, too. You can spend years walking on eggshells, trying to keep the peace, giving second chances, and staying quiet to “keep things from getting worse.” […]
🖤 The Narcissist’s Favorite Weapon: Your Past Mistakes
Let’s talk about one of the narcissist’s most insidious tools of control your past. Not their past. Not their behavior. Just yours. They take your old wounds, your regrets, your lowest moments, and twist them into shackles to keep you bound to their version of the story. They’ll smile as they do it, too like […]
When Boundaries Become Weapons: How Narcissists Use “Boundaries” to Silence and Control Their Scapegoats
In healthy relationships, boundaries are sacred. They help us communicate our needs, protect our emotional well-being, and foster mutual respect. But in narcissistic dynamics especially where a scapegoat has been identified boundaries are often weaponized, not honored. For narcissists, the term “boundaries” doesn’t represent respect or self-care. Instead, it becomes a mask. A justification. A […]